tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3303987617721770951.post2932930518210076880..comments2023-09-22T14:00:17.884-04:00Comments on Inside Things: A New Edge - What If I Bring My Mother Home?Frances Drosthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01257076156850037935noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3303987617721770951.post-62284881629699164192014-07-10T05:14:43.906-04:002014-07-10T05:14:43.906-04:00Hey friend,
I so appreciate people like you who ar...Hey friend,<br />I so appreciate people like you who are in this line of work and minister love and cheeriness. There is no pay sufficient for what you do. You care for our families day in and day out when we are not there and it can't be easy! I feel so sorry for residents who don't have their families nearby to come and support them. It's not an easy stage of life and it wears on everyone. Thanks for your encouragement and for all that you do for the people in this stage of life.Frances Drosthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04300066553460261225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3303987617721770951.post-8166274757185937922014-07-09T09:43:55.965-04:002014-07-09T09:43:55.965-04:00Frances, I wish everyone could do this for their l...Frances, I wish everyone could do this for their loved ones. I appreciate the families who come to see their aging family members on a regular basis and I hope they realize what it means to that family member, even if they are cognitively challenged. The contact still resonates with the spirit. I have worked with the elderly for nearly 7 years now. I LOVE the work I am privileged to do. These people are treasures, their history, their humor, their spirituality. This "old person" is somebody's mom or dad or sister or brother or friend. This is something a GOOD caregiver remembers as they do their work. Some days, MANY days, our charges are not always receptive to their care. They can become combative (I've been swatted, spat on, kicked and sworn at...but not often! I know when to duck!) BUT this is not their fault. They are usually in pain, they are afraid (how would you like to be dependent on another for almost everything but NOT remember that you are?) to be slowly losing every ability you ever had, to have to condense your life from a home you once knew to a small room or sometimes half a small room? When my facility receives a new resident, I tell them that we know this is not home to you, but we will do our best to make things as good as possible while you're here. So those are all things to bear in mind as you take on this new responsibility. What a wonderful daughter you are Frances. Bear in mind some days you won't believe that...it does get frustrating. But you are and your mom knows it! :)<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3303987617721770951.post-22945745620354252412014-07-09T09:04:20.490-04:002014-07-09T09:04:20.490-04:00My Precious Frances,
Obviously this is your d...My Precious Frances,<br /> Obviously this is your decision between the Lord and Tom. I will say this, after loosing both my parents young, I did have the privilege of caring for my Mom through her last year of life and cancer and I would do it all over again. She died at home with me hovering around her in love. I cannot tell you how much that helped in the months and even years of grief ahead. We all grieve differently and any act of love and kindness you show her now will help you on your journey of grief. I know from experience no matter how well we care for them, we're still left with "I would have, could have, should have's." I love you and I will pray and I know you will make the best decision for her.<br />Lovingly & Prayerfully,<br />DonnaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com